Bridesmaid Duties

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Bridesmaid Duties

We’ve had another engagement in the family (if you missed it, you can read about my sister getting engaged and asking me to be her Maid of Honour). My brother and his girlfriend recently got engaged and I am thrilled.

Bridesmaid Duties

My brother and I have always been close (apart from when he was a moody teenage and I was clearly his embarrassing little sister) and his now-fiancée has fitted into our family well. She’s the third sister to my actual sister and I.

Bridesmaid Duties

So leading on from this, my new sister-in-law to be has asked both my sister and I to be bridesmaids at their wedding. Which of course we accepted and so now the fun begins. They are planning a short engagement with a wedding this Autumn, so they’ll be plenty to do.

Bridesmaid Duties

I thought it might be nice to collate a list of the bridesmaid duties that a bridesmaid might be asked to do.

Before the Big Day

Wedding venue visits.
Wedding dress shopping and subsequent wedding dress fittings.
Wearing the outfit you are asked to wear, without complaint. It’s not your big day.
The wedding rehearsal.
Organise the hen night, if the bride wishes you to.
Offer assistance with wedding planning.
Making invitations, centre piece, wedding favours and anything else the bride might need help with.
Be open to paying for your own shoes and accessories.
Collecting dresses and suits the day before and pairing them up with the correct member of the wedding party.

On the Big Day

Dressing the bride on the day and accompanying the bride to hair and makeup appointments.
Ensuring the bride eats something on the day. Also, making sure she has a glass of bubbles whilst getting ready.
Liaison point for any suppliers on the day.
Handbag duties – keeping a ready supply of make up on hand for ‘touch-ups’ during the day. Also a packet of tissues in case there are emotions flowing.
Looking after the flower girls and making sure they are in the right place at the right time.
Chief communication point with the best man and groomsmen.
Rearrangement of the dress and veil during the day.
Holding the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony.
Be a part of the receiving line and welcome guests.
Help the best man organise guests for the pictures.
Time keeper and peacekeeper.
Get up, start the dancing and keep people dancing.
Helping the bride in the loo, especially if the dress is meringue-esque.
Distributing wedding cake to the guests.
Circulating the guest book for people to sign.
Decorating the couple’s car or wedding night suite.
Collect up leftover items at the end of reception. Disposable cameras, presents and cards, cake and anything else that has been left at the reception.

After the Big Day

Help clear up any remnants in the reception venue from the night before.
Deliver cards and wedding gifts to the bride and groom’s home.
Return any hired suits or clothing.

What other bridesmaid duties would you add to the list? I’m exhausted just thinking about it!

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30 thoughts on “Bridesmaid Duties

  1. Yikes it seems like a lot of work when you see it all written out like that! It's nice to read about how helpful you plan on being in the lead up to the wedding & on the big day. I'm sure you will help everything run smoothly for the happy couple. Thanks so much for sharing with blogger club uk x

    • Sally Sally says:

      Thanks Becky. Yes there is a bit there, but most of it is common sense isn't it? I'm sure everyone will have a lovely day.

    • Sally Sally says:

      Oh I bet it was Mary. Funnily enough I've never been a bridesmaid as a child, each time it's been as an adult.

  2. Ow how lovely, Im a little jealous as I've never been a bridesmaid before and probably never will 🙁 Dont think my sister will ever get married she's my only chance. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

    • Sally Sally says:

      Ahh, you never know. It may not just be family that asks. I've had a couple of close friends ask me too. Even if you don't get the chance, weddings are fun though. Perhaps more fun if you don't have any responsibilities to worry about.

  3. Oh how lovely! I am also a teeny bit jealous as I have never been a bridesmaid and don't see how I ever will be now. Enjoy your bridesmaid duties! #lifelovinglinkie

  4. I have been a bridesmaid too and I think your duties depend a lot on the bride. With one it was really just a case of showing up and with the other there were more responsibilities. I would just say make the bride feel special and keep things running smoothly. Enjoy!

    • Sally Sally says:

      Thanks Catie. I'll do my very best. I don't really mind anything that gets thrown at me to be honest, I like bossing people about and organising things. Ha ha!

  5. Oh I love bridesmaid duties sounds like you are being a great one. It's a lot of work but beneficial at the end. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme.

    • Sally Sally says:

      Thanks Jenny - I hope I prove to be a good choice. Yes it will be a busy day, but a fun one at the same time.

  6. Fantastic list. There's so much more to being a bridesmaid than showing up on the day! I think the most important thing is to wear the dress that's chosen without complaint. The bride wants to enjoy her day, not listen to the bridesmaids moaning! #bloggerclubuk
    Debbie

    • Sally Sally says:

      I think you are right. We are having a dress trial on Sunday, I'm looking forward to it. I like being involved in things, so I'm very much looking forward to getting stuck in.

  7. Sally, your family is growing so quickly! A new brother and a sister, how cool! And weddings are so fun, what a great time, planning and anticipating! This is quite the list of bridesmaids duties! Wow! Is this traditional where you live? I wish I would have known you when I got married, I would have happily asked you to be my bridesmaid! LOL This is incredible!

    Congratulations to you all, I can't wait to see the plans develop, so fun!

    • Sally Sally says:

      I know, so many changes and so many weddings. Yes this is pretty typical. Some brides will want the bridesmaids to do more and some less, it really depends on the bride. Thanks Nikki.

  8. Lovely list, Sally. I will be a maid of honor at my sister in laws wedding in April, and duties have been quite fun so far. Your list will certainly help me through, however. Especially on her wedding day and day after. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  9. Ahhh this is a really useful. succinct list. Congrats to your brother and sister. Busy wedding season ahead! I have just counted and I have been a bridesmaid 6 times, and 3 maids of honour so an old pro at it now! #AnythingGoes

    • Sally Sally says:

      Wow - that's a lot of bridesmaid dresses! It so much fun being a bridesmaid, I've done it a couple of times before. I love helping people and organising things so this is right up my street. If I need any advice, I know where to come!

  10. That's lovely that your sister in law-to-be has asked the groom's sisters to be bridesmaids! I have to admit that when I got married I enjoyed all the planning and organising too much to delegate any jobs to my bridesmaids, haha! Have fun being a bridesmaid, I love a wedding, and being part of the bridal party really is special 🙂

    • Sally Sally says:

      Hi Robyn. I think I might be same. I don't blame you, organising things is a really fun job for some people. Yes I'm really looking forward to it, whether I get involved in any planning or not. I just love the actual day.

    • Sally Sally says:

      Exactly, if I get asked to do all those things, I'm going to be one busy bee. Of course, everyone loves a wedding. Such a fun time to gather with friends and family and party away!

    • Sally Sally says:

      Thanks Leanne - I hope to. The bride is pretty organised so I think it should go smoothly, but I am looking forward to it very much.

    • Sally Sally says:

      Thanks Cheryl, it was a postcard that was in an envelope. Such a lovely way to be asked. I know, it's a big long list, but I like being busy and having lots to do.

  11. What a great post Sally. I've been honoured with Bridesmaids duties on a number of occasions and it's funny how often the Bridesmaids (not me) think it's all about THEM...lol! Great list. And thankyou for your ongoing, well thought out comments on my links from your linkup. They stand out from the usual 'thanks for linking' ones. Love, Mimi xxx

    • Sally Sally says:

      I bet, I have heard about quite a few bridesmaid-zillas. It's hard not to have an opinion on things, but I think it's important to keep it measured. No worries Mimi, I love popping by and reading what you post.

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