We’ve had another engagement in the family (if you missed it, you can read about my sister getting engaged and asking me to be her Maid of Honour). My brother and his girlfriend recently got engaged and I am thrilled.
My brother and I have always been close (apart from when he was a moody teenage and I was clearly his embarrassing little sister) and his now-fiancée has fitted into our family well. She’s the third sister to my actual sister and I.
So leading on from this, my new sister-in-law to be has asked both my sister and I to be bridesmaids at their wedding. Which of course we accepted and so now the fun begins. They are planning a short engagement with a wedding this Autumn, so they’ll be plenty to do.
I thought it might be nice to collate a list of the bridesmaid duties that a bridesmaid might be asked to do.
Before the Big Day
Wedding venue visits.
Wedding dress shopping and subsequent wedding dress fittings.
Wearing the outfit you are asked to wear, without complaint. It’s not your big day.
The wedding rehearsal.
Organise the hen night, if the bride wishes you to.
Offer assistance with wedding planning.
Making invitations, centre piece, wedding favours and anything else the bride might need help with.
Be open to paying for your own shoes and accessories.
Collecting dresses and suits the day before and pairing them up with the correct member of the wedding party.
On the Big Day
Dressing the bride on the day and accompanying the bride to hair and makeup appointments.
Ensuring the bride eats something on the day. Also, making sure she has a glass of bubbles whilst getting ready.
Liaison point for any suppliers on the day.
Handbag duties – keeping a ready supply of make up on hand for ‘touch-ups’ during the day. Also a packet of tissues in case there are emotions flowing.
Looking after the flower girls and making sure they are in the right place at the right time.
Chief communication point with the best man and groomsmen.
Rearrangement of the dress and veil during the day.
Holding the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony.
Be a part of the receiving line and welcome guests.
Help the best man organise guests for the pictures.
Time keeper and peacekeeper.
Get up, start the dancing and keep people dancing.
Helping the bride in the loo, especially if the dress is meringue-esque.
Distributing wedding cake to the guests.
Circulating the guest book for people to sign.
Decorating the couple’s car or wedding night suite.
Collect up leftover items at the end of reception. Disposable cameras, presents and cards, cake and anything else that has been left at the reception.
After the Big Day
Help clear up any remnants in the reception venue from the night before.
Deliver cards and wedding gifts to the bride and groom’s home.
Return any hired suits or clothing.
What other bridesmaid duties would you add to the list? I’m exhausted just thinking about it!
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