Fear of Failure


Fear of Failure

After a long chat earlier on in the week with a close friend, I realised that a fear of failure is one of the worst things a person can possess.

I’ve always been quite a confident person who comes across of quite fearless, I’ve not really given it too much thought, but reflecting on some of the conversations I’ve had with friends this year makes me think I am very lucky not to be plagued with this affliction (too often).

If you think about it, it’s quite easy to spot when someone has a fear of failure. It comes in many formats but ultimately it’s a debilitating feeling that you shouldn’t do something as you might not be good enough.

Well what if you are?

Did you ever think about that?

What about, even if you didn’t get it 100% right, or whatever you tried to do, didn’t work out perfectly? Surely the fact you gave it a go means you are braver and stronger than the person who sat there and said no?

Fear of Failure

I think fear of failure is holding a lot of us back. We don’t want to look stupid in front of other people, to have them judge us on not being smart enough, strong enough, fast enough or talented enough.

I think 2016 is the year that we should all stand up to fear, and that inner nagging doubt that says you aren’t good enough and embrace whatever it is you want to give a go.

Yes, you are enough. As long as you tried your best, had some fun whilst doing it and feel proud of your own achievements. That’s enough. Stop measuring yourself against others and tell fear to go to hell!

I hope this inspires you to make a New Year’s resolution that says, I no longer fear the fear of failure and yes whatever I do in life will be good enough for me and those around me who love me.

Let’s stop judging others if they don’t quite make the grade and celebrate the fact that they gave it a go. That way we can all be a bit kinder, try our best at everything without fear of being inadequate.

What has fear been holding you back from trying and what would you like to achieve in 2016?

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13 thoughts on “Fear of Failure

  1. I’ve been wanting to focus on my writing and grow my blog, but I keep falling for the lie that because there are writers who are better or more popular than I am, I should just stop trying. Fearing failure is such a strong thing to contend with, and in 2016, I’m going to do my best to ignore it!

    • Sally Sally says:

      Kathryn, you should never give up for fear that someone out there will be better than you at whatever it is. I know there’s always going to be someone, somewhere that’s better than me at probably everything I do, but it’s about trying your hardest and doing the best job you can. Putting in the effort and achieving the results that you can be proud of yourself. Good luck with with it. I’m sure if you put your mind to it, you can achieve everything you set out to do.

    • Sally Sally says:

      Hurrah! You’ve got it spot on Erin. I expect you inspired others in 2015. Here’s to an action-packed 2016. Thanks for popping by.

  2. I love this. I am most definitely guilty of fearing failure and have done all of my life. I have never really felt quite good enough, due to many reasons, mainly my own issues, but perhaps 2016 shall be the year that I find the courage to face my fears!!
    I think my biggest fear of failure is of my blog, which I started more for my own benefit but which I have decided to pursue on another level. I would love to feel more confident in my writing, and in myself!! I shall put it on my to do list!!! #LifeLovingLinkie

    • Sally Sally says:

      Absolutely please do make 2016 the year you believe in yourself more and don’t worry about what other people think. The blogging community is so supportive, so you shouldn’t fear failure here. There’s always someone to help, support or just have a chat to. I’ve found blogging to be incredibly empowering. Good luck!

  3. What an inspiring post.
    Fearing failure is me all over – I’m a perfectionist and always want to get things spot on . I worry what people will think of me if I don’t particularly at work.
    I was also a bit apprehensive about starting my blog for fear of people who don’t blog not understanding why I do it but this post has really inspired me just to go for it.
    I enjoy it and that’s all that matters 🙂

    Thanks for a great post.


    KT xo.

    • Sally Sally says:

      I know, it’s really hard not to worry about what happens if I don’t do a good enough job, but I’m definitely so much happier now that I just go for things and don’t worry about what other people think (too much!) You shouldn’t worry about your blog, there are so many lovely bloggers in our community that you’ll find lots of support there.

  4. Well said! I’m hoping to get out of my comfort zone in 2016 and achieve some big work-related goals and well as maybe expanding our family. I feel excited for the year to come but yes, also a bit of fear that I won’t end up where I want to be. I’m going to keep in mind your words about being braver and stronger for trying 🙂

    • Sally Sally says:

      That sounds really exciting Robyn. Yes, don’t focus on the end result, just focus on giving whatever you are trying to achieve a go anyway. I think bumps in the road always play a part, but sometime detours can be part of the fun. I look forward to reading more of what you’ve got planned for 2016 – good luck!

  5. I think fear of failure and perfectionism go hand in hand – and both had a grip on my life for way too long – I’m getting braver (as you noticed in my post last week!) and I am so proud of younger women who have grasped this idea of courage and are willing to have a go – even if the result is not as perfect as they’d hoped. Merry Christmas from a late bloomer 🙂

    • Sally Sally says:

      I completely agree Leanne. You have got it spot on and I love popping by your blog and reading your inspiring posts. Yes, too many people wait until it’s too late. We’ve got to go for it, no matter what it is! Merry Christmas to you too!

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