Picking bridesmaids is a one of the most important decisions you can make when planning your wedding. You want to be sure that you are going to pick people who are going to help you plan your big day and who aren’t going to make it all about them.

There’s a number of duties you can ask your bridesmaids to do leading up to and on the actual day. I have been a bridesmaid three times. That will become four when I’m Maid of Honour for my sister next year, so I’ve got some good experience around this area. I put together a post about what you can be expected to do as a bridesmaid – it’s well worth a read if you have been bestowed the honour.

So back to picking bridesmaids. It’s important to pick people who are going to work well together, especially if you are having a few bridesmaids. You might ask them to do a specific job, for example organise the hen do. That can be hard if they don’t get along, or see eye-to-eye on things.

The main thing about bridesmaids is to pick people who you trust. The people who you know will go that extra mile to make your day special and help it run smoothly. You want to have people in your wedding party who you know will help you and your loved one make the most of your special day.

We are very fortunate that we have a lot of very close friends and family and I could have asked a number of people and I know they would have been perfect for the job. In some ways that makes it harder. But I have decided to keep the bridal party relatively simple. I have asked four people to be bridesmaids. My sister to be Maid of Honour and my bridesmaids are my sister-in-law (married to my brother), my sister-in-law to be (my other half’s sister) and one of my best friends, a great friend from school who I love spending time with.


I think four bridesmaids will be perfect. They are all great people and have wonderful personalities. They also have brilliant and different skills so I’m sure I can get them helping out with different parts of the wedding. I’m looking forward to spending time with my bridal party.


How did you go about choosing your bridesmaids? Were they helpful leading up to and on the actual day?

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10 thoughts on “Bridesmaids

  1. I was just a bridesmaid for my sister. Not a duty I was entirely comfortable with if i’m honest but it was a lovely day. I didn’t have any bridesmaid for my wedding but I didn’t have a conventional wedding! #bloggerclubuk

    • Sally Sally says:

      I’m glad you enjoyed being a bridesmaid Briony. I’ve done it quite a few times now. It’s hard work but nice to be so involved. I think you have to do what you feel is right with regards to your own wedding day, there’s no right or wrong answer.

  2. I went with all family as I had seen so many close to me have friends and then not see or speak to them a few years down the line! A couple of friends were grumpy about it but they agree having been through similar experiences since!
    At the time I had 5 nieces aged 17 to 2 so it seemed right to have them and I’m so pleased I did!

    • Sally Sally says:

      It’s so funny that people get grumpy about not being asked. It’s your decision at the end of the day. I agree, three of my bridesmaids are family and one of them is a school friend who I see a lot of. You hear of so many people not speaking to any of their wedding party after a couple of years.

  3. Agree, you absolutely need bridesmaids who will celebrate you and your day. That’s what true friends and family do – they put you – the bride – first. Pen x #AnythingGoes

  4. I think for a lot of people it isn’t the picking the bridesmaids that’s as problematic as deciding who is going to pay for what. Are you paying for their dresses for example? (I did).

    • Sally Sally says:

      Completely agree Linda. Yes I’m happy to pay for it all. I don’t see why people should be out of pocket due to us getting married.

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